Monday, July 23, 2012

Yes, I know.... it's about $$$$$$$

From the NCFA's website....

"The William E. Simon Foundation awarded NCFA a $50,000 outright gift for the iChooseAdoption public awareness campaign, as well as a $50,000 challenge grant.  The grant funds will be used to support NCFA's 2012-2013 iChooseAdoption project, which aims to reach young women facing unintended pregnancy with the positive option of adoption.  We launched The Hope Challenge fundraising campaign in July with the goal of raising $50,000 by April 2013."

From the William E. Simon Foundation website.....

"The Foundation supports organizations and programs that help people to help themselves, have a proven track record of success, have a broad base of funders and local support, and spend a low percentage of their budget on administrative and fundraising expenses."

"In recognition of the fact that children need protection, nurturing, discipline, and positive examples from adults, the Foundation seeks to support organizations that help strengthen families, or that bring other caring and consistent adults into the lives of disadvantaged children. This includes, but is not limited to, programs to foster positive parenting skills, mentoring programs, and research on the best ideas for strengthening families."
So what is the iChooseAdoption awareness campaign that the William E. Simon Foundation so generously awarded $50,000? It's where they tell young expecting moms this....

"What is adoption?
Adoption is the legal process by which parental rights and responsibilities are transferred from one parent or set of parent(s) to another, ensuring that a child has the benefits of a permanent, stable, and loving adoptive family."  
This means that she will view herself as unworthy of raising her own child. She is very subtly told that the only way her child will have the benefits of stability and permanence is through adoption.

"Is adoption the same as giving away my baby?
No, adoption provides you with the opportunity to make a plan for your child's future. It can be a loving, selfless choice you make in order to give your baby all the security and benefits of a permanent family."
In other words, if you love your baby you will be selfless and give her to someone else who may, or may not, be a permanent family. Remember, adopters get divorced too.

"How can I be certain that my child’s adoptive parents will take good care of her?
Parents who pursue infant adoption are required to meet with an adoption agency representative, social worker, or other approved agent and complete a number of requirements, including a homestudy, to guarantee that they are emotionally and financially ready to parent. Prospective adoptive parents have to meet all criteria set by their home state as well as the agency in order to adopt. Also, if you choose an open adoption with contact between birthparents and the adoptive family, then you will be able to receive updates, pictures, and letters from the adoptive parents as your son or daughter grows up."
Of course they leave out the part about the adopters who do abuse the children they adopt. Of course it happens in original families also and of course not all adopters are abusers. But.... there are no guarantees. And, if you choose open adoption there are no guarantees that you will continue to receive updates, pictures and letters from the adoptive parents. You have no control or power in this regard. It's all up the adopters. They decide if or when they shut you out completely and legally there is nothing you can do about it.

"Who will help me if I choose adoption for my baby?
Birthmothers in the U.S. typically place their children through an adoption agency or a private adoption attorney. If you want to work with a licensed agency, it is important to do your research to find the agency that fits your unique needs if you are considering adoption for your baby. When working with an agency, you are guaranteed a high standard of professional care and counseling. The best agencies are staffed with sympathetic, ethical professionals who bring years of expertise to adoption counseling. Adoption agencies can offer support services and counseling both before and after the adoption takes place, as well as financial support or referrals for additional resources. Many adoption agencies will provide birthmothers with a written contract, detailing the agency’s responsibilities and promises to the birthmother both during and following the adoption process."
"The best agencies are staffed with sympathetic, ethical professionals who bring years of expertise to adoption counseling." I couldn't resist. I had to repeat that line. Yes, they bring years of expertise in the art of coercion. If the agency employs the counselors and the agency is the party that stands to gain from the results of the counseling, is that ethical? They call them sympathetic, ethical professionals. How sympathetic and ethical can they be if their paycheck comes from the people who stand to gain from the sale of a baby?

So, you get the idea about NCFA. Now what about the William E. Simon Foundation? They said they support programs that help people help themselves. Sometimes they do. This is one of the organizations that the foundation has helped and it's certainly worthy of attention and funding. If they really want to strengthen families, why then isn't the foundation helping women and babies stay together rather than funding a group that advocates for the separation of mothers and babies? If they really want to help people help themselves then why don't they give their dollars to organizations that help young single women with child care, education, parenting skills and job skills. Babies belong with their mothers. It's plain and simple. Why is it so hard for this society to understand? Yes, I know...... the almighty dollar. There's too much profit to made from the sale of babies.