Tuesday, May 29, 2012


I wanted to share an excellent post by a reunited Korean person. In it she answers the question  -

"Why are people who state truths radicals or whiners? Why is it radical to say that parents should raise their own children, and children should remain in their families? Why is it whining to demand that our human rights be maintained?" – Kris Pak

I especially related to the last paragraph of the post....

"Now that I have educated myself about adoption for the past 2 years, when I see an adopted child somewhere, instead of thinking isn’t that beautiful, I am deeply saddened. I don’t have to know the circumstances of what and why, but I see the birth parents that are invisible to everyone else in society. The parents may be good, no good, or there may be complicated and extenuating circumstances, but the loss is about the CHILD- and that loss is real."


  1. I have the same feelings when I see this out in public.. and out in the www. It saddens me. Deep felt sadness.

  2. I feel the same way, never got to say goodbye. In public, it is awful- it is triggering in a way that people in our position (adoptees or f Moms) cannot imagine. Slaps us right in the face. Our first parents are invisible to everyone, and it sucks.