Tuesday, November 2, 2010

What's it all about?

Adoption Week started in November of 1976 and became National Adoption Awareness Month in a proclamation by President Clinton in 1995. Here it is 15 years later and I'm wondering ~what is this month about?

Here's an example of what should be done with National Adoption Awareness Month. Not once does the article mention the "loving option" of adoption for an unplanned pregnancy. The writer is focused on children who are currently waiting in the foster care system because their parents rights have already been terminated. They're not trying to convince teenagers that they're not capable of raising their children so they can "give" them to couples willing to pay the price. They are focused on children who truly need homes. Good for them.

I did a search for the specific phrase National Adoption Awareness Month and one of the first sites to come up was this one. They apparently own this name for their website so let's take a look at what they have to say about November and adoption. The first thing they want you to do is celebrate! Let's celebrate adoption even though it starts with a tragedy, hmm...... Then they tell you how. This is what you can do - support Lifetime Adoption Foundations, a non-profit charity that offers grants to help people adopt. They offer $1500 - $4300 per adoption. They also "...proudly offer educational scholarships in deep appreciation to birthmothers who have chosen adoption for their children. They have enabled others to experience the joy of becoming parents...." So, this is another group offering girls help with an education IF they give up their babies.

Another suggestion they have for celebrating is to get some books about adoption out there where the public can see them. They want you to contact your libraries to make sure that books like this are available - Adoptingonline.com. The plug for this one says - "It contains the road map, the advice, the resources, and the working knowledge you need to find the baby of your dreams" Is it just me or does this sound like she's selling a car?

The woman behind these sites (and the author of the book mentioned above) is Mardie Caldwell. She is an adoptive mother, adoption facilitator and owner of Lifeline Adoption Center LLC. Here's her opening paragraph from the "our wings" page on the site.

How Adoption Became My Life's Work
"I remember when we decided to adopt. My personality was and is "I've made the decision so let's do it - NOW!" In my life if I wanted something, I could pick up the phone and call in an order, sign a check or ask my secretary to have it on my desk by noon. So here I sit with this overwhelming desire to be a mother and all this love to share with a child asking, "How do I complete this 'task' of parenthood by my deadline?"

That paragraph not only speaks volumes but turns my stomach and the more I delve into this site and the affiliated sites, the more disgusted I become. I also found a calendar for the month, giving ideas for daily activities dedicated to promoting adoption. Here's a sample of what they'd like us to do:

* Ask high school principals if adoption is shared with students facing unplanned pregnancy.

* Call woman's rights groups and encourage them to include the message of adoption.

* Ask clergy to include message of adoption for unplanned pregnancy into a service.

* Call TV stations and radio stations to encourage them to feature the message of adoption as a pregnancy option.

* Share adoption with your employer and ask them to add adoption benefits to encourage adoption.

What is this company getting out of all the National Adoption Awareness Month hype, the hype they're helping to create? Are they working toward finding homes for children that are currently in foster care, the ones who really, really need help? Or... are they focused on newborn adoption and the $ those adoptions bring?


  1. The financial aspect in being a single mother is enormous and the demand and pressure of that unexplainable urge to give everything that you can just for your kid to have a good future.

    Returning to college can be a well recognized and controversial topic, the president of the United States would like single moms to go back to college. The belief is that when single mothers return to school they’ll get the training they have to have to come back to the employed pool. More mums that enter in the workforce raises spending and from this investing of dollars the economic system will increase.

  2. Jazzie, I think you misunderstand. I have nothing against a college education, I've been there myself. If you go to the links you'll see that these are NOT single mothers getting scholarships. These are ONLY girls and young women who have handed over their children - only those who surrender their babies for adoption! They are literally trading their babies for a degree. This is not a scholarship program started by the president. These are scholarships designed by the adoption industry to lure pregnant women in so they can sell their babies to a couple wanting to adopt.

  3. Being a single mother is hard...being a mother with empty arms is devastating. So, without further ado, It does not matter what people think...the fact is that it is a way to buy children from young, vulnerable women....And it is disgusting and wrong.

  4. I agree that this is one more way to talk girls out of keeping their babies and make it sound like a win-win for everyone.

    I was really shocked at Mardie Caldwell, with her focus on getting this "task" of parenting done, "now," by her "deadline." I question whether she is parenting material whether she gives birth or adopts! I thought in order to adopt, these people were investigated thoroughly, and how the heck did she slip through?!